This. This. This. The exact combination of words describing why blaming parents truly isn’t of use regarding these matters. I feel like it is an endless cycle carried down through generations, yet I am a firm believer in the possibilities of breaking these patterns and thus, ending the ongoing loop of intergenerational psychotrauma. I recently had a profound read I’d really recommend anyone who’s drawn to these matters: It Didn’t Start With You by Mark Wolynn
I absolutely loved how you backed everything up with lots of science and knowledge to discover. Reading this was utterly teaching. Thank you!